“I had the honour of meeting Nelson Mendela once by proxy and I heard him explaining the forgiveness of those who jailed him for 27years. He said hatred and bitterness are destructive and that the power is in love and forgiveness. As the year ends, begin by forgiving yourself no matter the errors/mistakes you made this year.”- Bishop Chris E. Kwakpovwe
After that, you must determine that nobody is worth going to jail for, because bitterness is trapping yourself in a jail for someone else’s crime. Forgiveness does not change the past but it enlarges your future. If you are bitter against anybody, it means that person has gotten the best of you and if he/she gets the best of you, it means he/she has won!!!!. Don’t let them win, just move on and leave them to God whom I call “JEHOVAH AVENGER”.
You must know that sometimes, people hurt you because they are human and they make mistakes. Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on and wins. However, my bible tells me “…..As much as possible, be at peace with all men”. Note the words, “As much as possible”. It means your forgiveness of someone does not mean relating to them always or daily. You can be at peace without necessarily visiting or talking to them daily!! Just refuse to be bitter!! That scripture also means, having done all from your part, if the offending party decides to still carry out war, then your hand are clean and they have a case with God!!
Lewis Smedes wrote: “It takes one person to forgive; it takes two people to be reunited”. Don’t forget the rotten tomatoes story here and refuse to be a slave to another person through tomatoes,lol, bitterness.
Let your past make you better, not bitter.
Untill next time..